The Ugly Duckling Advantage
A few days ago my husband and I went out to dinner. We went to a very nice restaurant that we don’t frequent very often. But we were really good about ordering the healthiest options on the menu. We’re both making extra efforts to be healthier. Our program is called “Fear of Death.”
About halfway through our tasty, but healthy, entrees, another couple came through the door. The guy looked like a bit like my husband. Older guy, nice looking in a manly way (meaning not too much hair left, but still cute).
His wife was striking too…but not in a good way.
She had platinum blond hair, worn long in a 1962 teased flip. If you are my age, you might recognize this as Lesley Gore Hair.
To go with her bouffant hair, Restaurant lady wore a low-cut black blouse and a short skirt with a ruffle at the hem. You know the kind of skirt I mean – no matter how you hem it, it’s four inches shorter in the back once it curves your ass.
Can you visualize it?
She looked more like this:
When I see a woman with this kind of style, I always think: “Stuck in Time.”
And I am glad I was an ugly duckling.
Because I’ve noticed that many of the popular girls back in high school are stuck.
Their high school years were, as Springsteen wrote, their glory days. They peaked early. Popular, pretty, envied.
Everyone loved their hair, makeup, clothes. No wonder they’d like to stay there.
And stay there they do. For the next forty years.
But then there are girls like me.
Some of us awkward girls tried hard. Some didn’t even know how to try.
I tried excruciatingly hard.
To unfortunate results.
But there’s a big advantage to teenage inadequacy.
I’m not attached to the way I USED to look. I’m ecstatic to leave it behind.
Yes, there’s not much reason to recapture my previous glory.